The central personality in a Adda session, as described by Nripendrakrishna Chattopadhyay, is someone who “has no office to go. His only job is to sit there like the immobile image of a deity lighting up the adda.” These good-for-nothing bekars of the para (neighbourhood), however, are often the most useful. Think of a marriage, an annaprashan, or a shradh without these ‘social rejects’, you will know what I mean. These bekars are not really bekaars. They are more useful than most ‘useful’ are. The so-called ‘losers’ are society’s most creative thinkers. Rejection bolsters creativity. There are benefits of being different. People who have a strong “self-concept” are creatively productive in the face of rejection. “For the socially rejected, creativity may be the best revenge”, observe the researchers. Some socially rejected people feel “I am meant for something better.”
Social rejection is a subjective experience. No one likes to get socially ostracised, particularly if it is social isolation, but some level of rejection is an inevitable part of life. The experience of prolonged rejection can have adverse psychological consequences. The paradox is that the need for uniqueness is also a fundamental human motive. Maybe those with a high need for uniqueness are less sensitive to social rejection. Rejection depends on a person’s self-concept. Creative minds are the products of high levels of social rejection and isolation. These people are unconventionally creative. This characteristic makes them social outsiders. Rejection is not something one looks for. It is quite likely that rejection fuels creativity, but it is also equally important to investigate other environmental conditions that can simulate the experience of rejection without actually making the person go through such a painful experience.
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